The women that I have met through that board have helped me and been with me in a way that my other friends and family were not able to as they have never experienced this. I know it was kind of a "blind leading the blind" thing most of the time, but we've all managed to make it this far.
So we got the great idea to meet each other! However, having babies (especially two at a time) puts a strain on your finances. So we have decided to ask a television show to have us come on.
I finally sat down today and wrote a letter to the Today Show. I hope that they considerate. We would all love to meet. Plus, who wouldn't want to watch a bunch of mothers who have never met and their adorable twin babies?
Here's what I wrote:
Hello and good morning!One year ago in September I found out I was pregnant with twins. What a complete shock this was for my husband and me! And it has been a frantic blur ever since.
Shortly after finding out I was pregnant with twins, I found a message board forum (http://forum.twinsmagazine.com/) full of mothers and mothers-to-be of multiples (mostly twins and the occassional case of triplets!). These ladies have been my saving grace over the last (almost) year!The forum is divided into birth months. While pregnant, you find the birth month you fit in and form bonds with these women who you will, more than likely, never meet in person.
During pregnancy, we all shared our fears, excitments, dissappointments, milestones, and complaints - and there were many of these! A twin pregnancy is nothing like that of a singleton - I can speak from experience. So having a group of women who were going through the same things at the same time was such an inspiration and encouragement.
We had women on bedrest for most of the pregnancy all the way to women who were able to work up until the time their babies were born. We have women who had to deal with pre-mature births and extended Neonatal ICU stays. We had women who suffered the loss of one twin during pregnancy and shortly after birth. We also had women who were able to experience a wonderful birth that ended with two healthy babies!
Through all of that, we formed a bond. We wept for the losses of those who never had and we experience joy with those who shared their wonderful news.
I am part of the March/April 2009 board. All of us have had our babies - some healthy, some that are now angels, and some that are still struggling with different needs. Our forum has now moved from "Pregnant with Multiples" to "Your Twins' First Year."
We are now able to lean on one another for advice, support, and understanding. I live in a small town that does not have a support group for moms with multiples; so I heavily rely on my friends on the internet.
The things that us and our babies are going through right now, they say, is the hardest. It has been difficult on our marriages, relationships with family members, our bodies, emotional difficulties, financial difficulties, lack of sleep and 'me' time - but in the end, we all have precious babies to thank God for!
The stresses that we all have experienced during this last year has been unimaginable. But, so they say, as the babies get older, life is so neat being a parent of multiples! We shall weather that together, too.
I come now asking to meet these incredible women and their babies. As babies (especially when they come two at a time) puts a financial strain on things, we as a group do not see how it would be possible to ever meet in person. We have invested almost a year in each others lives and have relied on each other to get through tough times. It would be amazing to be able to hug their necks and smile into their babies eyes!
I appreciate these women and their encouragement tremendously. It would be such a wonderful thing for us all to be able to meet!
I encourage you to view our forum. http://forum.twinsmagazine.com/forumdisplay.php?f=175 (We have also joined each other on facebook in order to keep up even more often.)
If you and your producers see fit, we would love to be able to meet on your show. I want to be able to share my story and thank all of the women that have helped me through this! And, honestly, who doesn't love babies? :)
We appreciate your consideration in our request.